Sunday, March 24, 2013

To our family...

I was talking with a friend the other day and he was saying, like many others have been, about how lucky and fortunate our two adoptive children are to be joining our family, and while I really appreciate the sentiment, it got me to thinking...what is "family?"

If you ask Webster's Dictionary, it'll tell you that family is a household, a group of individuals living under one roof and under one head, a group of persons having a common ancestory or a social unit consisting of one or two parents and their children.  True, all of us have people in our lives that we've grown to love, trust and support over the years because we're related to them through our parents in some fashion or another and we traditionally know these people to be family.  But I think family is much more than that.

These four walls in our house do not define what we consider our family to be.  Having the same ancestors with someone does not encompass who we consider to be in our family.  Our family includes fathers, mothers, brothers and sisters, but it also includes you people we consider to be vitally important to our daily lives;  you people who are close friends, who are neighbors, who are fellow church members, who are mentors and who are confidants.  You people who are seperated from us by miles of pavement and some, even, who we've never met in person yet talk to on a daily basis through common interests.  You have been woven into the fabric of our lives by a loving and compassionate God who has placed you in our paths to become integral parts of our journey.  We value you far more than you possibly even realize and consider you just as a part of our family as our loved ones who were born into it.

My friend was right, our two adoptive children have no idea the family they are coming home to;  they really don't know what "family" is.  They don't know what the word brother or sister truly means because they come from a place where poverty, famine, sickness and war tears families apart. They end up on the streets struggling to survive and only the lucky ones end up in an orphanage where hopefully a loving family wants them.  It's knowing these harsh realities that we realize that it's not these four walls or this last name that these children are so blessed to be coming home to, but it's you and us together that will truly be the blessing. 

So, we thank you for loving us and being a part of our lives, and we look forward to introducing our newest additions to you so that you can love of them like you've so adequately loved on us. 

God Bless...

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

So many things!

So many things have happened since our last post that it will probably take a couple of posts to catch everything up! 

First of all can I just say - STUCK!  If you have not seen or heard about this movie, please go see it when it comes to your town or buy it online here:

https://bothendsburning.org/

This is an awesome look into international adoption - corruption, red tape and everything in between. It was truly an awesome movie!  We went opening night and it was great.  They had a question and answer session afterwards that was really neat as well.  They had the "producer" - the man whose idea this was, they had a local adoptive parent couple that had adopted 9 children and then they had the President of the National Council for Adoption.  It was wonderful.  I did get a chance to speak with the president of the National Council for Adoption afterwards and he was really nice.  I spoke to him about the Embassy changes and the new process in Congo and he was really helpful! (Can't share on a public blog. Sorry!)

Sometimes it is hard to understand what it is like being in this "waiting" phase of adoption.  Some liken it to being "paper pregnant".  Anyway you look at it the fact remains - THIS IS SO HARD!  And I hate waiting!  Although, I understand now, that part of the reason for our additional wait time was to open our hearts to a second child.  If we had been ready to travel when we were "supposed" to be, then we never would have accepted "G"'s referral and I know without a shadow of a doubt that he was intended to be our son.

I can't begin to think that I know all of God's plan for my life - or the life of my family.  He is introducing His plan according to His will - not mine.  Last year, I had this vision (not a sparkly picture or anything) "planted" in my mind.  I told it to Rob and he was like, "Oh yeah? Hmmmm".  It seemed that every avenue I went down to even BEGIN pursuing this idea was a dead end.  I went and met with one of our pastors - he said, "Christy, I don't know how you are making your life work right now.  You need to wait.  This would not be something you should do right this second."  Needless to say, I was a disappointed.  A couple of weeks later, Rob and I met with another guy from our church who has alot of christian connections since I figured it was time to change jobs.  Do you know what he said?  "Christy, you guys have alot going on right now and I'm not sure you should be changing jobs."  OMG!  Needless to say, I got the message LOUD and CLEAR.

Every so often, I have been thinking about my idea or "vision", but it never felt right.  Rob was not totally on board either.  To him this was just one of my crazy ideas.........

Then, in February, I was in church and we were having a sermon on being "BOLD".  I felt it.  NOW, it is time.  GO!  

And I went!  And it is exciting!  And Rob is ON FIRE and just as passionate about it as I am!  We are so excited!!!  Details will be coming soon!

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

Our cups runneth over...

Yesterday was truly a remarkable day.  It started a little before 6 a.m. with a phone call...from Africa!  And on the other end of the phone we heard the sweetest little voice say "Bonjour Momma."  Oh My Goodness!  Let me explain...

One of the directors of the adoption "agency" that we are using is over in DRC right now with two other adoptive mothers on a visit to deliver supplies and food that all of us adoptive parents collected to the orphanages our kids are coming from.  Yesterday they were in our orphanage and had the opportunity to get some of the older kids on the phone for a quick call back here to the states.  WOW!  What a blessing it was to be able to hear their sweet voices, even if only for a short 30 seconds, but it was so encouraging and uplifting to hear them.  What a way to start the day...

Then, later in the day the pictures started rolling in on the "agency's" FB page of their visit from today, and man did they take a lot of pics.  It was incredible to see new pics of our kiddos, especially the pics of Galvani and Imani together;  they've been told that the same family is adopting them both and that they'll be brother and sister, and by the pics, it looks as though they are getting used to the idea.  Not only were there pics of our kids, but also pics of everyone else's kids as well.  It was so much fun, all of us sitting in front of our computers, hitting refresh looking for the latest pic that was uploaded and then seeing the flood of comments pour in, fawning over each child...even if they weren't your own.  I'm truly amazed by how supportive the adoption community is of it's own;  these people have become so important to us and we haven't even met any of them...yet. 

If you've noticed, I keep referring to our agency in quotation marks...why?  Our agency, DRCAS (Democratic Repuplic of Congo Adoption Services), is not your typical agency.  When I think of an agency, I think of a business with offices and overheard and tons of staff;  not true with DRCAS.  DRCAS started off with two women, mothers who saw the plight of orphans and decided to do something about it.  These women has since dedicated their lives to advocating for these children and working tirelessly to provide an ethical adoption program for those of us who want to provide a forever home to these children.  And here's the real kicker, their desire is for this agency to be built with the families who have used their services, to the point that there are committees to help guide the path of the agency that are entirely made up of adoptive parents.  You won't find that in any other agency....talk about accountability and transparency.  What a blessing it is to be a part of this group of people who's only desire is to help the fatherless.

God is good...all the time...especially yesterday. 

Friday, March 1, 2013

People are watching...

Today is a horrible day, one of those days where you just want to hop back in bed and sleep through it.  Today i'm fighting with my wife (over something I did), my kids aren't listening and appear to hate me, things are breaking at work, stress is at an all-time high and I'm completely frustrated...a regular soup-sandwich over here.  (Okay, i'll explain:  a soup sandwich is something that is completely useless...you can't make a sandwhich out of soup...it's a Navy term, sorry)  In fact, I'm supposed to meet with my mentor for our weekly get together but I don't feel like talking about anything so I think I'm going to cancel on him. 



That was 2 hours ago...not a great way to start the day...



Well, I didn't cancel on him;  I went because I figured something good had to come out of it...the only place I had to go was up, so I might as well give it a shot...and God came through in a tremendous way.  After meeting my mentor, Shaun, at Panera he asks if it's ok that a mutual friend of ours, Bruce, meets us here as well...of course, brother Bruce is always welcome.  In fact, I first met Shaun and Bruce on a missions trip I went on late last year to Honduras;  I was so impacted by them and how, as grown men, they were so open about their faith and love for Jesus.  That's not something that I was accustomed to, or was comfortable with either, but I knew then that I had to get time with men like these two.  So we're sitting there in Panera, drinking our coffee, and talking about what's going on with the adoptions and I'm sharing some ideas that Christy and I have for a non-profit helping to supplement orphanages around the world.  We're talking about how great God its, about how it's amazing when we look back on where we were and where we are now and where God is taking us, and a stranger walks up to our table.  He proceeds to tell us that he was sitting at the table next to us and was evesdropping on our conversation;  I'm thinking he's not happy with all of this God-talk and is going to ask us to tone it down...he is, by the way, one of the employees there.  Instead, he proceeds to tell us that he's an ordained minister from a local community church and it was so encouraging to him to hear us talking openly and freely about our faith and that he just wanted to come over and say thanx!

Wow...

Here I am, trying to get time with guys who share their faith openly and now I'm part of a group of men that has impacted someone else in that very same way.  That, right there, was a turning point in my day and a huge sign for me that these things that I'm struggling with, the things that are getting me down today, are just the enemy attacking me.  He didn't realize it, but him coming to our table and saying thanx for encouraging him in turn provided a huge lift of encouragement to me and taught me yet another lesson that I thought I'd already learned:  People are watching you, especially as Christians;  how you act and what you say will impact them for good, or for bad. 

So, I'm changing the first sentence of this post.  Today is going to be a great day...


God Bless!

Monday, February 25, 2013

Thank you...

We just want to send out a sincere, heartfelt thankyou to everyone who donated and shared our story this past week for the Give1 Save1 campaign.  We are happy to report that you raised enough money to provide the last bit of travel expenses for us to be able to go get Imani once her visa investigation is completed.  In addition to that, you provided close to 2,000 additional dollars that will immediately be used towards Galvani's adoption!  As you may have heard, adoption is very expensive so we are humbled by your generosity and willingness to get involved to help us bring our children home.  While we fail to capture the right words to thank all of you properly, please know that you have made a huge, everlasting impact on the lives of two special children who will, because of your donations, have hope for a future that wouldn't have otherwise been possible.  God Bless!

Friday, February 22, 2013

Love Abounds....

I am so overwhelmed by the generosity of others.  I am even more overwhelmed by the generosity and blessing of our Lord!  When we were selected to be the featured family on Give 1 Save 1 I had no idea what to expect.  I'm not even talking about the financial part!  I have been truly blown away by several things:

1.) Willingness to Share - I can not believe how many people shared our Give 1 Save 1 "campaign"!  We have spent the week catching up on all the "shares" to make sure that we have everyone for the giveaway.  I am also blown away by the amount of MEN who shared!  One of my neighbors, S, is a man's man - you have to be a really good friend to see the sensitive side of him - He shared!  I almost lost it when I saw that he shared!  I want everyone to know how much every share means to me  and I thank you so much!

2.) Repeat Donators - One of the reasons we wanted to do Give 1 Save 1 was to get out of our "circle" of past donators.  Wouldn't you know it that we have so many repeat donators.  A member of our church family who is adopting from Haiti, they have supported EVERY fundraiser we have done.  I was shocked and touched when I saw them donate to our Give 1 Save 1.  Another church family, who is dealing with a serious sickness of their baby girl - donated again.  I just can't believe how many people have been repeaters!  It is truly mind blowing and most definitely humbling.  My church is amazing!  The giving nature of all of these donators is amazing!

3.) Notes of encouragement - I can't believe how many people have sent us notes of encouragement and praises for what we are doing.  Let me stress, we are not amazing, we are not to be awed, we are plain, ordinary folks who are stepping out for Jesus.  That's all!  We fight, we love, we make mistakes, we yell at the kids!  We are not awesome people without flaw!  We are two people who have been deeply impacted by James 1:27:

Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.

I could not send Galvani to a state run orphanage.  I could not do it.  For the rest of my life I would have thought about it and what happened to him and regretted not helping him.  He's just a boy.  He DESERVES a family just as much as you or I.  I don't care about any "issues" he may have.  He is a boy who needs love and a Mom and a Dad.  That's it.  Seems pretty simple to me.

4.) Adoption Community - Can I just say WOW! WOW! WOW!?????  My friend Heather once told me the adoption community is so accepting and loving and supportive.  I knew that.....I now know I REALLY KNOW IT!  I feel like the adoption community ran their own "shock and awe" campaign on us!  You would not believe how many other adoptive parents that have given to us.  It is AMAZING!  Rob and I have decided that we are going to do our part to give back to the adoption community.  What better place to spend our money than on items to bring kids home into a forever family? Adoption friends - YOU ARE AMAZING!  Your heart and your willingness to give WHILE fundraising yourself is what inspires me!  Thank you so much!

Speaking of fundraisers!  Rob and I have decided that our Give 1 Save 1 Campaign will be our last fundraiser.  No, we do NOT have all of the money for Galvani's adoption.  BUT, I can tell you this:  What God has called us to do, HE is faithful to finish it!  We have received so many random reminders- almost daily - that I know without a doubt that God has this!  He is faithful!  Not sure how it will work out,but I know it will!!!!

Thank you for following our journey.  Thank you for your support.  Thank you for reminding us that we were created in God's image and we all have at least a piece of his goodness inside of us.

Have a blessed day!  It's Friday!

Christy

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Completely humbled...

What an amazing, humbling day yesterday was.  So many people have donated and shared our story in order to help us, many of whom we don't even know!  Wow, wow, wow...I'm truly at a loss for words with the generiosity of so many.  There is one donation in particular that completely broke me down that I wanted to share with you, not because it's a large sum of money but because it is a powerful testimony of God's provision and blessing, and as an added bonus my oldest son Dillan (12) got to learn first-hand this lesson with me.

Sometime yesterday morning, while I was trying desperately to keep track of the shares on FB of our story for the giveaway we are doing, the doorbell rang.  In some houses everyone comes to the front door, but not ours...friends and family come in through the garage, knock and then come in, so the doorbell ringing was an unusual occurance.  Dillan beat me to the door and on the porch was an envelop that simply said "Give 1, Save1" on it, nothing more, and an SUV drove quickly away, no idea who it was inside.  So he brought the envelope inside, opened it and exclaimed "Dad, there's cash in here!" and I could tell that it wasn't just a couple of bills.  I asked him to read me the note that accompanied the donation because I could already feel my emotions welling up inside me and I wasn't sure I could even talk.  This is what the note said:

We are so proud of your family!!!  What an inspiration you are to all of us at Journey.  We were so moved when we heard Christy's testmony after her trip to Haiti.  You guys are amazing!  We are so inspired by people who truly hear God's voice put something on their hearts and then are courageous enough to act on it!!  What a blessing this will  be to your 3 sons here and the daughter and son you are about to join into your family!  May God continue to bless you!

And with tears streaming down my face, Dillan counted out the donation;  100, 200, 500...1000 dollars!  I couldn't take it...I broke down into a sobbing mess. 

Why do I share this with you?  I'm hesitant to even share the amount.  It's certainly not because I want to be boastful or proud, it's because I want to show that with God all things are possible.  In a moment where I was worried about how in the world are we going to raise enough money to adopt Galvani as well as Imani, God came through in a big way and showed me that we won't be able to in a worldly way, but He can and will in only ways that He can orchestrate.  And to have my son witness this powerful example with me is something that I am truly, truly thankful for...a hundred words couldn't have taught him the lesson that he learned today by someone's anonymous donation.  And to whomever you were yesterday on my front porch, we thank God for you, your heart, and pray that you receive blessings in return 10-fold. 

I'd also like to thank each and every one of you who have donated, from 1 dollar on up your donations have been adding up.  I'm excited to announce that we've raised enough money to bring Imani home and we are stepping closer towards raising enough to bring Galvani home as well!  You've helped to bring an innocent child home forever, let's continue to spread the news so that we can bring both of them home.

Thank you!
-Rob

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